“The more we care for the happiness of others, the greater is our own sense of well-being. Dali Lama
So why do we compare? Does it give us an opportunity to justify our own actions? Or perhaps make us feel worthier than our counterpart or even more so– to separate ourselves from others. We all judge on some level and some more than others. Families can often be the worse. We are often programmed to compete, to compare, and criticize and it can cycle through to the next generation.
How can we stop this behaviour? First, we need to be aware of our thoughts and what is going on within ourselves. We often judge others simply because of our own personal experiences. Haven’t you had times in your life when you were extremely good and other times when you were not nice, maybe even terrible?
If we can have the awareness that in life, sometimes we are up and other times we are down. And that life is like a wave of not just our emotions, but also based on our experiences in this world. Perhaps we would be less inclined to point the finger at others. Why must we judge so harshly, particularly when change is constant within all of us?
I love this quote “Cultivating a close, warmhearted feeling for others automatically puts the mind at ease“. Dali Lama
So true, it takes energy to be angry, to repeat your stories and think negatively. While it gives us energy to care for others and to be grateful for what we have.
You and I are in control of our emotions in any given situation. Why not choose loving over judging?