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Our behaviors and experiences are often fueled by what happened in the past.  He passed away a four years ago today and before he left this world, he gave me a wonderful gift.     For me, my Dad was intimidating and not approachable. I had often felt pressured by his beliefs and held back from showing him who I was. The last week of...
  It was five years ago today, I recall standing near the kitchen window at barely six o’clock in the morning as the car pulled up my driveway. I grabbed my bags and took a final look around before heading out the door knowing it would be a while before I returned home. I could feel the cool morning air...
It’s only recently that I fully came to understand how my near death experience so many years ago changed the course of my life. It was the middle of January and a typical winter day in Rochester, New York when the days are short and bitterly cold. Snow blanketed the ground as I made my daily trip to the hospital...
As I contemplate my donation just three years ago today-- it was a time of loss, a time of growth and a time of giving. It was also a compilation of how I had lived my life up until that point. So often, when we are going through difficult times it’s hard to imagine anything beyond the hurt and...
As I board the train to Tarrytown at the close of another weekend, I contemplate the past few months since beginning the Strala Ready-To-Lead yoga training in NYC; I am pleasantly surprised at how much I have grown since beginning the program a few months ago.  It seems to be the case time after time that whenever I feel...
I recently noticed I was struggling. I began striving for things such as; loosing a few extra pounds, wishing I had this or that. To me this is dangerous, the message is clear that I am moving away from my core to external wants. Mind you, it’s ok to want and desire more for yourself. However, when your experiences...
"The more we care for the happiness of others, the greater is our own sense of well-being. Dali Lama So why do we compare? Does it give us an opportunity to justify our own actions? Or perhaps make us feel worthier than our counterpart or even more so-- to separate ourselves from others.  We all judge on some level and some more than others. ...
The pain I felt waking up from surgery forced me into a state of  feeling the present moment. In this space of not looking forward nor behind is where I eventually found my souls true joy. After donating my kidney I felt as though I had a clean slate. I was acutely aware that I had let go of baggage particularly around...
It's hard to imagine that a loss of this magnitude would leave us at choice. I remember writing at the time "I must find a way to feel whole again and let go of the pain, so that I can feel the joy of having Kyle in my life". It was January 7, 1984 and I was 24 years old...

Giving

Donating a kidney has been a catalyst to finding joy in my life. Part of this journey was staying at the family home just two days after donation. At the family house I connected with a dozen or more families who had a loved one in need or were receiving an organ. My own situation seemed trivial at the time....